I'm an infp lady who needs to advocate for her developmentally challenged daughter. In the process of doing this, I have to deal with ESTJ type personalities a lot. What's my best approach with them?

 

HERE'S DAVID'S ANSWER:

Inside all INFP's is a warrior that struggles to find peace.   They tend to avoid confrontations and try to make the best of things.  Sometimes that just doesn't work, especially if the stakes are high (as they are in this case).  What you need to do is unleash your beast within and fight hard.  When you hit an ESTJ road block, don't back off.  Go around it - or better yet, force your way right thru it. 

As all true warriors know, this will not win you any respect, any love or any sympathy from the ESTJ enemy.  Then again, that's not really the point.  One thing that I learned from my experiences at XXX was that fear is a great motivator for the ESTJ bureaucrat.  When you get no response from an administrator, go above their head.  If that doesn't work, go to your congressman.  Eventually, someone will get the message that this is not the person I want to mess with.

ESTJ's need to protect the system.  When someone starts to break that system down into something that actually works, ESTJ's get territorial because of their fear.  Any good warrior can use this fear to their own advantage.  Of course the INFP does not like to fight and certainly doesn't want to cause havoc.  You need to realize that this is your duty and your responsibility whether you asked for it or not.  For the GOOD of all (not just your daughter) you need to fight.  When you realize this - look out!

I am very happy that you reached out to find the answers you seek. 

David

 

HERE'S HER RESPONSE:

Very affirming and makes such sense-I really like you and your puppy too. I am glad for this info-I will print it off and keep it for future battles. Cause yes I am most certainly a warrior and as I said as long as I am still talking -diplomacy is an option. Once silence breaks out-then you are mine. No matter who I have to drag into the battle no matter how long the fight-and I always have great allies in the most unexpected places. I have never lost- manily because I visualize the win.